While this year has been anything but calm, during a time of chaos typically, it’s important to find the ability to be calm under stress. Holiday stress is all too common and goes around year after year. Doesn’t it seem to have started earlier this year? Some of the holiday stressors that we typically have seem to be heightened due to the inability to see or spend time with loved ones. And while your holiday heart is bleeding tons of love, the stress of the holiday continues. Take time to check in with your holiday calendar and make time for yourself along with these 5 ways to keep calm:
1. Give Thanks
Have you ever genuinely thanked someone with a frown on your face? If you were genuinely thanking someone for something, there is a HIGH chance that you did not. Showing gratitude releases endorphins, happy thoughts, and warm feelings. Try it. Go ahead. Think of something you need to thank someone for. Did you smile? I bet you did! Now think of how you feel? You’re probably feeling good to have something to be thankful for. Giving thanks during the holiday season can keep you feeling joyful in the times that become hectic and stressful. Once a day during the holiday season reflect on what you are thankful for that day. It will make the holiday rush much more enjoyable (the way it should be). And with the increase in the amount of frowns you may have had this year, wouldn’t it be nice to have a smile!
2. Make a List (and check it twice)
You’ve made your list. You’ve checked it twice.
Wait: you haven’t made a list?!
Keeping a list of the things you need to get done for the holidays can not only help you stay organized, it can also help you stay calm. The holidays can become chaotic. What time is the Zoom call and with which family members? What food item to bring where to help the community and donate? What ingredients do you need? And presents? AGH! Don’t forget cousin Suzy! For those of you that you’re your list small: awesome and hats off to you. But for those of you that have family and friends galore and the list of gift giving grows: keep it organized. This will also help you from overspending when you get to the store. Make the list and stick to it. Use a planner to track out your shopping days, your decorating days, and the days you are visiting with people. Then check it twice.
The gifts. The décor. The food. The events. Did reading all that make you start to feel anxious about the cost? It may have! It all adds up! So when it comes time for the holidays, budgeting is important. Setting a budget and sticking to it can decrease the anxious feeling behind spending. Because those bills? They don’t stay with you at the holidays. They travel into the new year with you. And you still have to pay them. Set a budget for what you will spend on each category and stick to it. This year, more than ever, it’s important to shop small! Help our businesses and communities to grow during these times!
4. Remember You are One Person
Ever see the movie Four Christmases? And while that funny fictional movie can be a hoot to some, to others it is their reality. Being split in multiple directions during a time of the year when you want to spread love and joy can make one resentful of the holidays. More times than not, our obligations to others is based from how that person will feel if we don’t spend the holiday season in the way they expect us to. Keep in mind you are to be in control of your own life. Easier said than done sometimes when it comes to the holidays. Explaining to your loved ones that this year you just cannot be in multiple places at one time either because of scheduling or ensuring social-distancing may not go over easy. It’s important to keep in mind the quality of time you are spending. Reiterate this to your loved ones and ask to start a new tradition celebrating on a different day!
5. Make Time for Self Care
Yes. Believe it or not, part of staying out of the storm during the holidays is making sure to treat yourself too! Whatever the best self care routine for you is, follow it! ESPECIALLY during the time of the year that might be most chaotic for you. Ever take time for yourself and the next day feel SO energized? It’s because you finally unplugged and recharged. During this time of the year, sit back, relax, and reflect. and putting yourself part of the routine. You had that in routine. Schedule the time for yourself if you must. But don’t skip it.
From our home to yours: Happy Holidays.